Hey Emma,
It sounds like that person would not be a very good person. And Bob could definitely face serious consequences. I will answer your questions to the best of my ability.
1. My friend told me about the morning after the pill. What is it, how do I get it and how long do I have to take it?
The morning after pill serves as an emergency contraception method. You can obtain it from a pharmacy over the counter. You only need to take it once. It works by preventing or delaying ovulation. I would recommend getting the Levonorgestrel-based pill because it is most effective within 24 hours with a 95% chance of effectiveness.
2. What are the things I should be concerned about in relation to my sexual health? Why?
You should absolutely be concerned about contracting an STD. Since you and Bob had unprotected sex, there is a chance he could have passed an STD to you. An STD could lead to infertility, lower abdominal pain, burning during sex and urination, and more. You should contact your GP or closest sexual health clinic to make sure you don’t have one.
3. What are the legal consequences for Bob?
In Victoria, the legal age of consent for sexual activity is generally 16. However, there are specific age differences considered. Considering that you are 15 and Bob is 18, he could potentially face severe legal consequences, including jail time. He took advantage of you when you were intoxicated and had sex with an underage girl. I would highly recommend taking action.
4. In regard to my experience with Bob and being drunk for my first sexual encounter, what emotions could I be feeling?
You could be feeling scared, worried, disappointment in yourself, sadness, etc. These feelings are reasonable, and anybody in your situation would be feeling them. I would just highly recommend getting the morning after pill as soon as possible, and then the risk of pregnancy will significantly drop.
5. Was I in a respectful relationship? Why/why not?
You were not in a respectful relationship considering that Bob took advantage of you while you were most vulnerable to do what he wanted.
6. What are some strategies that my friends could have tried to prevent this from happening?
Your friends could have stayed sober and watched over you to make sure nothing like that happened. Your friends could have still been drunk too but kept an eye on each other so nothing happened. They could have seen Bob acting weird/inappropriate and intervened. Or you all could have set up a buddy system to make sure no one was left alone.
7. If I am pregnant, what should I do and what are the options I have? Who could I call to discuss my options with?
You should take the morning after pill first to avoid pregnancy. But if it fails and pregnancy still occurs, then you could try other abortion methods. Or if you end up having the baby, then put it up for adoption if you don’t want it and no one else can take care of it. And you should discuss these options with a healthcare professional or a trusted counsellor that could give unbiased advice and help. A local sexual health clinic would be a good place to call to get confidential advice.
Regards,
Dr. McGeachin.